How to share a bed and not fall out! It’s the cause of arguments in so many marriages, so DR GUY MEADOWS shares his expert advice on how to enjoy dozing next to your partner and how to drift off like a baby

He’s the sleep doctor who couldn’t sleep. But his experience led to a revolutionary approach to curing insomnia that can help anyone get a better night’s rest. Today, in part three of our illuminating series, Dr Guy Meadows turns conventional wisdom on its head to argue against sleeping in separate beds. Today, in part three of our illuminating series, Dr Guy Meadows turns conventional wisdom on its head to argue against sleeping in separate beds Today, in part three of our illuminating series, Dr Guy Meadows turns conventional wisdom on its head to argue against sleeping in separate beds Relationships can be affected massively by a lack of sleep. The inevitable tiredness that results can make one partner snappy and withdrawn from the other. And resentment towards a loved one who sleeps well — perhaps even snoring while doing it — is common. One client, we’ll call him John, told me that separate bedrooms had become the only way he could control the jealousy, anger and even loneliness he felt watching his wife fall asleep as soon as her head hit the pillow, while he lay there wide awake. Sleeping in the spare room, he said, helped quell his resentment. It also seemed a practical solution, as he no longer needed to worry about being disturbed by his wife’s snoring or nocturnal movements. Many sleep therapists suggest moving into a separate room as part of a treatment programme. I strongly disagree with this approach — and I’ll tell you why. To encourage sleeping apart is to lose sight of how sharing a bed brings a sense of love, comfort and even safety. Don’t underestimate, either, the damage that sleeping apart can wreak on your sex life. Common sense tells you you’re more likely to be intimate with someone you […]

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